Dying Your Hair is an Addiction… Don’t Try It.

Before I get into my story, here is a list of information from this Bustle article that explains how dying your hair damages it and will ruin you for good.

  1. The ammonia found in hair dye lifts the cuticle up to let the molecules of the dye in, breaking through each layer of your hair shaft.
  2. After the cuticle is broken, the process of dying your hair continues. In order to receive the color you want now, you must use peroxide, also known as bleach.
  3. According to Huffington Post, “Peroxide is very drying on the hair, which contributes to the damage of the hair. Now the cuticle is lifted, your pigment has been broken down, so now your hair should be straw-like.”
  4. The hair color proteins you had from your original, virgin hair become oxidized and colorless. With this, the new pigment can take over and bond to the hair cortex.
  5. The longer you keep your hair dye in, the more the cuticle is lifted, making it more damaging it is to your hair overall. Ni’Kita Wilson from Huffington Post mentions in this article that, “…your cuticle is lifted for however long you have before you rinse, and the dye is penetrating into your open cuticle and hair shaft. The longer your cuticle is lifted up, the more it’s weakening. Once you rinse, your cuticle comes down because the color has deposited, but the damage is already done.”
  6. Hair dye stinks

With that, we can begin to understand this from a personal experience of mine.

From an early age to now, I have watched my aunt style hair on numerous people. Whether it was at home or in her salon, the most intriguing part of watching her style her clients was always the dyeing process. I have learned a lot from this and I can almost say that I would be able to give advice or tips to anyone who is curious about coloring their hair or what they should expect when doing so.

I cannot count the number of times my mom (aunt’s sister just incase you were wondering) has dyed her hair. I mean, good for her for taking advantage of the free service her sister gives her, however, growing up, I always thought of it as something that everybody just did. As I grew older, probably the around time I was in middle school, I started getting more and more curious about the hair coloring process. I was never allowed to dye my hair, even when I begged and begged. It was as if it was a life-or-death necessity for my mom to dye her hair, and she was denying me from my own “well-being”. I kind of felt confused, more so like an oddball since everybody in my family dyes their hair like its no biggie. I am actually really thankful that I wasn’t allowed however, because I know a 6th grade fire-engine red-head version of me would look extremely horrifying… but of course, I learned my lesson another way at another time.

When I was born, my hair was platinum blonde, and as I grew older it started to form into a dark, ash blonde. This is actually completely normal due to the fact that the melanin in our hair doesn’t usually “turn on” until we hit puberty, making our hair darker. It seems kind of weird, but makes total sense. Thanks Google. Anyways, I always really liked being blonde and considering myself blonde, despite all the hate we get sometimes, so I wanted to lighten it up a bit. Prior to me considering this, my sister had started getting into coloring her hair as well, of course. Thanks mom. Because of this, I begged and begged my mom to let me do something that would liven my life up a bit too.

She let me get one strand of a highlight.

Im over-exaggerating, but just to let you know, this was the start of something that would eventually go really, really haywire.

As time went on however, I started getting more and more highlights throughout the years. I was set on being super light. Eventually, my aunt suggested that I use a permanent dye for my hair instead of bleaching it like I usually did, which causes more damage. I agreed when I know I should have not. It was actually really nice though, but then I found out what a toner was. Long story short, the toner gave off an orange tint to my hair. It’s actually supposed to do the opposite but I honestly don’t know what happened I just knew I hated it.

Fast forward two month later, which was actually December of 2016, I still hated the fact that in my eyes my hair was orange. For some reason I had the burning desire to stop my misery by going dark brown. To this day I truly don’t know why it ever occurred to me that dark brown hair was something that I NEEDED to have. I could’ve just lightened my hair again and had it back to normal, but I really like change so I think I was just bored with my life at the time if you want me to be honest. On top of that, I don’t know how I got my mom convinced on letting me dye my hair 20 shades darker than it was but I did. I told her I would raise my fail to a C in calculus if she let me do it, which unfortunately I never did that semester :(. Anyways, I did it.. it came out light brown with a hint of green the first time. Not too crazy. Then I went back in the next week, with dark mahogany brown box dye. Dark mahogany brown box dye. Just let that sink in.

It turned out looking really cool actually, even though it was almost black, but me being the Gemini that I am I was over it within the next week or so. I liked how it made my facial features pop but I knew I was most comfortable and “myself” when I was blonde. I kept it for about 11 weeks (yes I counted out of eagerness) and as a result it faded into a light-brown with washed-out orange undertones. If you didn’t know, the 11-week mark was last Saturday, the 18th of February. I was determined to go back to my roots, with my life normal again. I got a light-medium blonde dye and I went straight to my aunts house.

I went half a shade lighter.

Me being the highly sensitive person that I am, I was extremely angry and disappointed at the fact that there was no change at all. My hopes were too high and I felt like I was trapped, that I would never be able to go back to how I was before.

My aunt then advised me to get highlights… worst decision ever. I came out looking like a 2000’s Kelly Clarkson. Not something you want.

Two days later (basically today) I went back begging for my aunt to bleach the entirety of my hair to end my misery. We argued about my hair becoming severely damaged if I were to even try bleaching it like 100 shades lighter. I was too impatient, and of course me being the extremely stubborn person I am I did not give up and I eventually got my way an hour later. Let me just tell you, I have never had more anxiety in my life from the time my aunt mixed the developer and bleach powder together to her drying the result of my poor dead hair.

It actually wasn’t that bad… Of course I was horrified because I don’t really remember myself blonde without pictures, but I was relieved. Just an FYI, Moroccan oil does wonders to dry hair, try it out. Even though I went from dark brown, it actually didn’t come out orange as everyone had expected it to. Although I do have very yellow and somewhat brassy parts to my hair I am hoping that my purple shampoo (which is supposed to get rid of it) will do the trick. If not, I’m going back for a third and hopefully final trip to my aunt’s to darken my roots a bit (it makes it look natural) and my hair more toned-out.

Overall, I am happy with my hair and all that it has been through. I am thankful to have been able to experience what it’s like to have dark hair, and now I know I am never going back. I’m actually also extremely blessed that my hair didn’t die on me and fall out like I was convinced it would. I feel like this was a wake-up call, and it is safe to say that I am done with all these chemicals. I know it will take a HUGE amount of time for my hair to grow back completely and revert to the healthy state that it was once in, but for now I will do my best to inform others to just not take the same road that I did.

Change is always good, just know what you are getting yourself into. You should always be grateful and love yourself for what you were born with, you should not feel like you need to look a certain way or change a certain aspect about yourself to be happier with your life. Look at it from a broader perspective and ask yourself, “Is it really worth the damage?”

For me, that would be a no because my hair still smells like bleach.

How to Deal with Stress… in One Word

This is probably the type of blog that everyone does but I decided that I could do my own great job at spreading the message and advising anyone reading this how they can cope with their emotions even though I myself am kind of stressed out trying to write this blog right now considering the fact that I am doing this 6 hours before the time it’s due but I think I can execute this in a thorough and appropriate manner and still have enough time to finish the rest of what I need to do. (You can probably tell since that was just the longest run on sentence I’ve ever written in any of my blogs.)

I think that’s what we all need, though. More time. No, that’s not the one word. Although we can spend hours complaining about not having enough time, we all know it’s not going to get the job done. It probably won’t since by the time you stop complaining about running out time you’ll actually run out of time and then complain about not knowing what to do anymore. That was just a wild guess.

Apart from that, stress comes in many different shapes and extremes. Not only can it come from things like homework, chores, having to run errands, etc., but it can also arrive unexpectedly through tragic events or random surprises in our lives. I’m sure we all know that and have been through something like it before. However, many of us have no idea how to actually deal with it, and when you don’t know, it can get out of hand and make things EXTREMELY worse for you.

One article here gives a various amount of suggestions as to how to manage your stress levels. The author mentions:

“Without smart habits for dealing with situations that could be stressful life can be a whole lot more burdensome that it needs to be. You may feel tired before the week has barely begun. Be overwhelmed on a daily basis. Get an upset stomach, headaches or migraines too often and even start to feel burned out.

So what can you do about it?”

Without a doubt, we all have the ability to remain calm and stop ourselves from excessively worrying. For me, personally, I feel as though I am always anxious and panic-y regardless of any situation I’m in. However, it is very easy for me to force myself to “go-with-the-flow” and adapt to my surroundings.

What can you do about it?

You can do anything.

Step One: Get over your fear that something, anything, everything will go wrong. It’s not that bad

Step One and a half: I’m calling this the “and a half” just in case if something, anything, everything did go wrong, you still have the ability to make something out of it and spark a little change in your life. Who doesn’t like change? Change is always for the better, always keep that in mind, even if you are left with nothing.

Step Two: Get rest. Stop whatever you doing and chill out. Take some time to self-reflect if you want to, too. You are going to feel SO much better and your brain will have time to regenerate itself so that you’re more alert and focused by the time your beauty sleep ceases to a halt.

Step Three: Figure out a solution. Stop dwelling on the past. Yes, we know you hate your life, we see you complaining on every social media app. Figure out a plan thats going to help you be a better you and let you live your life the way that it’s going to make you comfortable, free, and happy. Therapy is always good option as well.

Fun fact: I. Hate. Presentations. (Still not the one word)

One thing that I will never be able to completely entirely unconditionally wholly-and any other synonym I can think of for “completely”- accept the fact that presenting is “easy” and that I “have to do it” for my “own well being” if I want a “career”. How do you think I deal with that you may ask? I don’t. But I do make sure that I take into consideration what I could be doing.

Apart from presentations, there are SO many more- and I don’t want to say the word “things” but I feel like I have to say it- things that we all stress about. Don’t make an excuse for your own selfishness. You know you need that A, so go and present. Also, life goes on, man. You will never be stuck in a limbo trying to deal with the same exact situation forever and ever.

I am not an independent adult yet, but I have witnessed the amount of stress that family members and friends have gone through trying to support their own families. Now this is a different type of stress, and these tips might not work for every single occasion but they can work for some, if not most. This might sound corny, but when you accept positivity and love into your life, there is nothing from that moment on that can disrupt it. Acceptance is key when it comes to even the most unbearable.

If you don’t know, I have watched Interstellar probably about 7 times, and yes I know I seem soooo off-topic but trust me, I think we all need to watch/re-watch it. I know I would have never been able to devote such time to review the movie, even if it is my favorite, and create an entire blog based off one of the most confusing plots ever, but I knew it would come in handy some day. Anyways, in the movie, (I’m doing my best not to spoil but I will if I have to and you can’t do anything about it because how else are you going to get the message hehe) the protagonist, Joseph A. Cooper, is stuck in the fifth-dimension after leaving Earth and spending a considerable amount of time in space in search for a new home for human civilization to thrive. He comes to the realization that his love for his daughter was the only way he was able to escape from the Tesseract (fifth dimension) and return to his starting point that would allow him to meet with his daughter again, despite all the time passed. One article here regarding the concept of love in Interstellar describes love as:

“…gravity; if 5-D is a plane of existence where you can know everything, then love/gravity is omniscient…love is a propulsive force, sending us in the directions we need to go. Sometimes we feel that we are tapping into that force of love; other times, it picks us up and forcibly pushes us toward the right decision or action.  “

This shows how a simple feeling can guide us into the right direction, and although you probably might not be stressing out about trying to escape out of a black hole at the moment, you are stressing about something else. That’s normal. However, we should never let it get the best of us. We need to surround ourselves with those that we love and whom love us. With this, we have to ability to conquer and overcome anything we desire, despite how little or how much time we have. Knowing that you have the ability to push through your worries and doubts can make a huge difference when dealing with stress.

I hope one day I am at a point in my life where the only thing I’m stressing out about is which country I want to vacation in with my private jet. But even then I should still try to focus on remaining calm and care-free with the support of my loved ones. I hope that we are all one day able to let go of the negativity that we hold within ourselves and instead spread love to one another. Yes, I know, so corny.

But if you didn’t notice it yet, Love is the one word.

Why Having an Older Sister is the Greatest Thing

I can’t really say much on behalf younger brothers, but I know that as a younger sister, the person I look up to the most is my older sister. Since I was little I have always strived to be like exactly her, following her around and copying her every move. Although I was never able to understand how or why I was annoying to her, all I knew was that she was the first person I truly bonded with.

This article describes the many reasons why an older sibling can be one of the most valuable people in your life.

My sister and I are 3 years and 9 months apart, if you really want me to be specific, but we usually just tell people its 4 years. We are actually complete polar opposites but somehow we have so much in common. She has always been the loud and hyperactive one while I tend to be more shy and calm around others. I have always envied her for that, however, we continue to stick by each other’s side and have the best time together.

When you grow up as a younger sibling, its in your nature to do everything your older siblings does, whether or not you have an option. My whole life I have been telling people that my favorite color is purple, but only recently did I find out that it’s only my favorite color because I convinced myself at the age of 2 that since purple was my sister’s favorite it just HAD to be mine too… but really I had an underlying, burning passion for pink.

Also, to this day I still take her hand-me-downs, most of which are completely out of style, but it’s just a younger sibling thing that we all have to deal with regardless of wether we want to or not. In addition, I have attended the same elementary, middle, and high school that my sister did, not because I wanted to but because my parents wanted me no different than my sister. They liked how she ended up so they repeated the same steps for me. Thankfully though, I was able to grasp more knowledge and prepare myself for what’s to come regarding school, social life, friends, etc. from her advice.

“Starting high school is a daunting experience for even the bravest people, but having an older sister really helps to soften the blow. Before you started, she gave you the low down on the teachers you would have, and where to get lunch. More importantly, you spent years hearing “Is so-and-so your older sister?”, helping you to make friends and seem (slightly) cooler.”

!!!!! If this isn’t me then I don’t know what is. 

One of the most important and valuable things that an older sister can offer you is life advice. Its kind of depressing to know that she didn’t really have anyone like that when she was growing up, but I know she wouldn’t want me in that same position. Older sisters are there guide you in the right direction to prevent you from doing the same mistakes that they once did when they were your age. To her, you probably seem like an inexperienced little girl, but no matter what she thinks of you, you literally consider her your own personal “life adviser”.

Regarding parents, siblings obviously like to bicker on who’s the favorite (in this case its me). Because we were so selfish, it became a tradition that whenever it was our birthday, BOTH of us got presents from our parents, not just the one whose birthday it actually was. It sounds really spoiled, I know, but we just wanted our parents to ourselves. Now, the only thing we pretty much argue over is how much more lenient they are towards me than when my sister was my age. However, she understands how hard it is to live with a strict mom and dad, so she takes responsibility for things I might have done wrong or sticks up for me when I ask to stay out late.

“Everyone’s family is a little crazy, but there aren’t many people with whom you can have a good moan about them. You might have the right to call your dad irrational, but none of your friends do. The only person who can really relate to the madness of your family is your older sister, so vent as much as you want.”

When I need to vent, the first thing I do is tell my sister. Especially with family problems, I know she is the one who understands me the most and can give me the best advice. We have both gone through the same struggles but we’ve also had the advantage of guiding each other through them. As we both grow and mature, this has made us even closer. It is something that I appreciate and would never take for granted. Without her, I would never know what it’s like to have a true companion.

I have always said that it doesn’t matter who you are, if you’re the younger one in the family, there’s a 100% chance that you can make a better assistant than anyone else. Older siblings make you do E V E R Y T H I N G. Trust me, I have learned the hard way. When you refuse to do something for them, they act like you have never done a single thing in your life, but when YOU ask for one small simple favor it’s like they don’t understand the definition of help. This then leads to complaining… complaining leads to arguing… arguing leads to not talking where one of you then breaks the silence 5 minutes because you both found something funny while watching TV together… and then the cycle repeats. The only time you probably ever apologize is when your parents get involved, but that apology is pretty much forced and no where sincere at all.

I have probably never fought with someone more in my life, and I know for a fact that if this was another person I would not have been able to keep up with all of it, but she is my sister. I know that she will never turn her back on me no matter what. She has taught me to always be strong by having my own voice and never hiding behind someone else’s shadow. Your older sibling is your first friend and your biggest supporter in life. I am glad to know that although mine is several miles away in college, I am able to give her a call or message her whenever I need to. She is someone who I am truly thankful for and could never take for granted. My soul mate, my other half, and my best friend.

Are You a Happy Person?

The best emotion you could possibly feel is happiness. When we are happy, it seems like everything is going our way and we have nothing to be worried about. This article shows a great example of how a person who is positive lives their life.

“Happy people know that the struggles they face will pass, but at the same time, they also know that the great things that are in their lives will pass as well. Happy people live in the moment.” 

I could not agree more with this statement. When you are accepting with certain situations or outcomes, your ability to remain positive strengthens and it becomes easier to avoid sadness or insecurity. For example, many of us set our hopes too high and become disappointed when something does not go the way we had initially planned or imagined. With this we are not able to appreciate what we have been given and we feel that our happiness has been taken away from us.

However, this does not have to happen. In order to remain content we have to allow ourselves to be aware that people come and go, opportunities appear and vanish, and we should not stress out about something just because it may be an inconvenience to us. That inconvenience can serve as a lesson for you to learn and carry throughout your life. It can also introduce you to something you would never expect and instead benefit you in the long run. For example, lets say you receive and unsatisfactory grade on an exam at school. This is by far one of the most devastating experiences that could happen to a student. However, this could motivate the student into working harder for a better grade, allowing them to excel not only in one particular subject but in all. They are able to possess a mindset for themselves that they cannot succeed unless they try their best and work for a better grade.

“They know that few things matter more than how much you love everyone, starting with yourself. They know that loving yourself means respecting yourself and doing for yourself what will make you the best you possible.”

This is another statement that I can truly agree with. If you are unable to love yourself, then there is no possible way that you can convince someone else to love you. Creating and possessing negative energy can take a toll on an individual’s life. They probably don’t have many friends and the relationships they try to build with others don’t work because there is no stable foundation due to the fact that they continuously put themselves down, giving it no opportunity to grow. If you work to make yourself happy by doing the things you love and achieving your goals it will greatly benefit you and those around you. This will allow you to remain satisfied and carefree from life’s obstacles.

In order to be happy the best thing is to also not take anything seriously. Many people are sensitive to things such as jokes or what someone says about them. If you constantly pay attention to what is accepted in society or change a certain way to please only your loved ones and not yourself it will only make things worse for you.

Happy people choose happiness because they choose to do what will best facilitate it.” If you are struggling to face a certain problem, accepting help allows you to restore your happiness. When you avoid or refuse to resolve a trouble you might have you are only trying to make things worse for yourself, something a happy person would not want for themselves. “They choose to help themselves, to be brave, and to accept things they can’t change, even when it seems most impossible.

Even the happiest person in the world once dealt with a point in their life where they dealt with challenges that they probably didn’t think they could overcome. “Happy people know suffering more than anyone else, and that’s how they can see just how damn beautiful their lives are. It’s because they’ve seen the depths.

Overall, I feel that I am a very happy person and I try my best to maintain that emotion. I feel that making others feel the same way is very important as well. Being optimistic about whatever circumstance you may encounter can only allow you to move forward in your life and grow as an individual. When you give off a positive vibe not only will it help you but it will also help those around you. You can inspire them to love themselves and appreciate the world they live in. Happiness is being able to control the way you feel and knowing that you can accomplish anything you set your mind to without fear.

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Taken from Wikipedia

A Year Without Internet

The Internet:

“The global system of interconnected computer networks that use the Internet protocol suite to link billions of devices worldwide.”

We have all used the Internet at least once in our lives, I mean how else would you be reading this. Telephone lines, cable, and satellite connections are all networks that connect to our computers. We are able to use these computers to search for information that we might want to find quickly and easily. The Internet also allows us to communicate with others from across the world and interact through different websites/apps. Many of us use this to our advantage and most of us incorporate the Internet into our daily lives in order to function.

Paul Miller, a journalist for The Verge, wanted to experience something different regarding the Internet. His profession allows him to constantly use electronic devices throughout his daily life. However, he wanted a break from it all.

Paul Miller was going to leave the Internet for a year.

On April 30th 2012 at 11:59pm Paul would begin to spend the next 365 days of his life without The Verge, without Facebook, Skype, or anything else that required using the Internet. He was going to live without it all.

A mini-documentary called Finding Paul Miller (if you would like to read the article you’ll find the video along with it or if not there is a direct link below this paragraph) displays why Paul chose to take on this challenge and what he learned as a result. Life without the Internet allowed him to interact with others in person much more than he would with it. In addition, Paul looked and felt much more happier than he did before, and he began to read at an astonishing rate. It also got him to lose some weight too, which is always good. However, he felt “out of sync with life”. Paul mentions numerous times that he did not really get anything out of it by the end of his journey. This may seem pessimistic and shocking since many of us tend to believe that we are so distracted from the Internet that we are not in touch with reality. Therefore, advanced technology could be some what of a bad thing for us so by ridding ourselves of it it can be beneficial. However, this was not the case for Paul Miller.

In his article, Paul states:

I spoke with Nathan Jurgenson, a ‘net theorist who helped organize the conference [Theorizing the Web in New York]. He pointed out that there’s a lot of ‘reality’ in the virtual, and a lot of ‘virtual’ in our reality. When we use a phone or a computer we’re still flesh-and-blood humans, occupying time and space. When we’re frolicking through a field somewhere, our gadgets stowed far away, the internet still impacts our thinking: “Will I tweet about this when I get back?“.

With this, I can understand where both Nathan and Paul are coming from. We are all human beings that live our lives, regardless or wether we decide to use the Internet or not. It is our choice to use computers, phones, tablets, etc. and there’s nothing wrong with refusing to do so, but our generation is so technologically advanced that we almost have to utilize these devices. We are able to connect with people through networks like Facebook, Skype, Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter, and anything else you can think of. We also have the ability to find out information in larger sums regarding a certain topic which allows us to learn so much more with just one click. Of course you can always write letters to people or go to your local library for research but like Paul said, you wouldn’t be in sync with the rest of the modern world. You would be doing things the way it was done in the past. I like to think that we are constantly moving forward and that we should all be catching up to the latest trends or advances in order to thrive as a whole.

Just because you do use the Internet, though, doesn’t mean that you should be on it 24/7. That’s bad for your eyes.

This is where I would have to disagree on technology, specifically our electronic devices. When we use too much, we literally drain our brains out. We are oblivious to our surroundings when we look down phone which can be even dangerous sometimes. It stops us from enjoying the time we have being around those we care for the most. Conversations withs others are now through text messages and seem harder to have face-to-face. It’s also fun to post pictures of where you are on your Snapchat story or your Instagram page, but that can hold you back from actually having a good time. Not everyone needs to see what you’re eating for lunch or who you’re with. We also don’t need to be laying at home watching Netflix the whole day when we could actually be outside enjoying the fresh air. Taking a break and really tuning in with yourself without  phones/computers/tablets is always a great thing to do. It can make you feel much better, emotionally and physically, about yourself and your life in the long run.

For me personally I don’t think I would be able to survive an entire year without the Internet. Maybe if I wasn’t in school (I would literally fail this class if I didn’t have access to the Internet so no thank you) and I had money to actually do things like traveling especially, then I would most likely be willing to do so. I do believe that it would benefit me, although it would be pretty difficult to keep up with other individuals who have access to more information than I would without the Internet yet it would make me more aware than they are. What I mean by aware is having experience. Experience comes from lessons that are taught to us when we do something wrong or simply when we just don’t know how to do a particular thing. We should only rely on ourselves. For example, if we need help with something many of us refer to the Internet and what it has to say regarding what we need to do. Although it may be useful, those who don’t have access to the Internet must come up with some sort of way to fix it themselves. This can be done through trial and error and although it may be difficult at first, once you find your solution it you become much more intelligent than you would be by just looking up the answer from something or someone else. You might even discover something different that could benefit you even more. Thus, despite being able to grasp information with the Internet, it wouldn’t allow you to think for yourself. Overall, I think this was a beneficial experiment that Paul Miller took part in because he is now able to see life in a different perspective, regardless of whether or not he enjoyed it. The most important thing is that he had the chance to try something new by taking the opportunity and going in to it full force. He is able to show the rest of the world what it’s like to have a lack of a resource that most of us wouldn’t be able to function without. Paul is planning on writing a novel that goes more into depth about his experience throughout the year of 2012-2013. By reading this article I felt somewhat inspired and maybe I’ll try to limit myself from using the Internet and see where that goes.

I probably won’t make it past an hour.

How Your Birthday Can Affect Every Aspect In Your Life

If you know me, you would know that zodiac signs/horoscopes are something that bring great interest to me, so OF COURSE I had to write about it in AT LEAST one of my blogs this year.

Basically, what astrology is is “the study of the movements and relative positions of celestial bodies interpreted as having an influence on human affairs and the natural world“, thanks to Google 🙂 . Most of us link astrology to horoscopes and a lot of us are aware of our zodiac signs but don’t put much thought into it.

(If you have no idea what I’m talking about when I mention zodiac sign, you can refer to this list. It’ll show you what you are based on the day you were born.)

Since that is out of the way, we can start going more into depth with our signs. Our birth chart: The exact time and date (even place) of when we were born which can have a HUGE effect on our whole lives. What your birth chart basically tells you is that each person has a sun sign, rising/ascending sign, and a moon sign. We usually refer to our sun sign the most (the day we were born), since it is a general description of our characteristics, while our rising and moon signs are a little more personal. If you’re trying to get on an even deeper level with yourself, you can figure out the alignment of the planets from the time and place of your birth.

and No, you don’t need to find out the cross streets of your hospital or wherever you were born, if you were wondering.

Of course you’re going to have to know A LOT of math to create this birth chart, so get ready to take out a take out a pen and paper for this. Just kidding. I have a pretty link that does it for you ;). (FYI, this website was down for a few hours 🙁 but now it is back up so just incase it happens again there is another website here you can use) DISCLAIMER: this isn’t like a major psychic reading, it won’t start telling you your future spouse’s name or what you’re going to get for Christmas this year. Birth charts are simply an explanation of who you are as an individual. This can stretch from explanations as to why you have the personality traits that you do to the reasons for your health/other issues. If you’ve been struggling through this whole blog and still don’t know what I’m talking about I’ll give you an example from my birth chart. Yes, I am willing to go that personal with you.

This is a screenshot I took from the website’s chart for me

As you can see, my sun sign falls into Gemini, since I was born on June 10th, and my ascending and moon signs both fall into Libra. So yes, we all have some traits of each zodiac sign in ourselves but that can differ for everyone. Note: no person has the same birth chart as you, even if you have a twin. You and the rest of the world are just as complex and unique. Every second and minute counts, you can be a Taurus rising sign at 3:30pm on June 10th, 2000 or you can be a Libra rising sign at 3:31pm on the same day. Not really, but you know where I’m going with this. Fun fact: it’ll take like 4,320,000 years for someone to maybe share the same birth chart as you, unless you have an astro twin (same day, same time, same place) which is extremely rare and highly unlikely.

Continuing on to the birth chart, you’re probably asking yourself whats the difference between each planet, or what do each of them represent. Don’t worry I got you.

  1. SUN SIGN:  Your sun sign is a general synopsis of your personality and how you interact with others. For example, I have a Gemini sun sign, so I express myself easily and I can adapt quickly to new surroundings.
  2. MOON SIGN: Your moon sign contributes to your inner self and how you deal with your emotions. Usually you are able to emotionally connect with an individual much more easily when you both have the same moon sign. You know that vibe you have when you just can’t relate to someone because they have nothing in common with you? It’s their moon sign.
  3. RISING/ASCENDING SIGN: Your rising/ascending (same meaning I don’t know why I keep using both words) is a representation of the way you put yourself out there in the world for others to see you and the impression they can have on you. It can even contribute to your physical characteristics. This article here mentions an example of how people with Gemini rising signs are usually “tall and slender with dark hair.” Of course that doesn’t mean ALL Gemini risings look like that, but most do if you really pay attention.
  4. MERCURY: EVERY planet affects us from the time of our birth. Ruling planets are a whole different topic and that depends on your sun sign, but for right now we’ll just focus on the birth chart. Mercury specifically relates to how you view your life. Fun fact:
    "Because Mercury travels so close to the Sun, it is never 
    very far from the Sun in your birth chart. It is always  
    either in your Sun sign or in the sign immediately preceding 
    or following your Sun sign."
  5. VENUS: (Everyones favorite) Venus revolves around your love life and how your relationships will be like/what you desire from a person.
  6. MARS: This planet reveals what makes a person become aggressive/angry and how they reacts in that situation. I am a Mars in Gemini so according to my chart I basically express all of my anger in words and I have a very nervous energy (very true).
  7. JUPITER: Jupiter is just overall great. It literally is the reason for the good in your life, since it governs good luck, confidence, prosperity, and generosity.
  8. SATURN: This is the planet that teaches us lessons in life. Saturn contributes to responsibility and hard work. I haven’t taken a break since writing this blog post so metaphorically I feel Saturn’s presence/vibe right now.
  9. URANUS: Uranus is full of surprises. It is the reason for change and sudden events or opportunities in your life.
  10. NEPTUNE: If you have a strong Neptune, this means you are very imaginative and are in a higher consciousness.
  11. PLUTO (yes it is a planet in this case, sorry to all you non-believers)This is kind of a negative one, but you can definitely perceive it in a positive way instead. Pluto is mostly linked to influence in your life. It’s transits can represent the beginning and end or the highest and the lowest of life’s stages. Like that middle-school emo phase, yes, Pluto was there and prominent.

Also, on the right side of my birth chart it shows all those Roman numerals, if i went into depth with that it would be too much. Astrology is a HUGE and EXTREMELY complex study so I’m trying to keep this blog simple and sweet. But if you want to claim yourself as an expert in a day, you can read this online book that tells you literally EVERYTHING (ruling planets, houses, symbols, polarities, triplicities, nodes, masculine/feminine signs, dualities, do you want me to go on?). I was in shock by the second chapter so it is a MUST if you want to know more about yourself here.

For me personally I think this is a really cool and interesting way to just learn about who you are. Even if you think this is a joke, I can guarantee you there is some truth to it when reading your birth chart. I’m not here to go against anyone’s beliefs. This was a lot for me to take in at first but I have learned so much from it. I use it as something to help better myself if I’m unhappy with the way things are going in my life. It lets me understand and sustain my strengths; it also allows me to be aware of my weaknesses so that I can work and build with them. In one of the articles I was reading the author stated “Astrology works based on the principal that we are connected to this planet, and that this planet and its contents are connected to the Solar System. If you can accept that all celestial bodies hold and give off energy it’s not hard to imagine that the effects of that energy impact us hear on our home.” I fully agree with this because if you truly believe in something, then it will become your reality. If not, then it won’t affect you. It is being aware of ourselves and how we view the world that help us determine the decisions that we make in life, good or bad. So yes, I truly believe that everything in my life happens because I am a Gemini and my moon sign is a Libra, and my rising sign is a Libra, and etc. I do read my daily horoscope from an app on my iPhone and I use it as something to keep me motivated and excited for the day. I don’t care if that seems odd to you, that’s probably a trait from your sign.

Overall, the birth chart and the zodiac are simply guides “merely there to point [our characteristics] out to us and tell of their relevance to other aspects of our lives“.  


Why Himalayan Salt Lamps Can Be The Best Purchase You Ever Make in Your Life

If you don’t own a Himalayan salt lamp, you may want to listen to this.

Never heard of it?

A Himalayan crystal salt lamp is known to be extremely beneficial for your body and the air. According to the product’s description, the lamp is structured, when turned on, to “emit negative ions that fight against positively charged particles“. All matter, such as the human body, water, and others, are composed of molecules. These atomic molecules consist of protons, electrons and neutrons. Electrons, negatively charged particles, rotate around their molecules, however, these electrons often leave behind a positively-charged ion. This proton then has no purpose whatsoever in life. Natural Living Ideas mentions that “Due to differences in molecular structure (number of electrons in the outermost orbit, strength and structure of electron bonds, etc) some materials lose electrons much more easily than others.” These negative ions can cause fatigue or irritability in an individual if they are exposed to it.

Today, we as human beings are living in a world full of electromagnetic radiation which flows from things we use the most, such as our electronic devices. While we may not be able to detect them through the naked eye, when we are exposed to this everyday it can have detrimental effects to our health and mood. One article states that “Constant exposure to EM radiation is known to increase stress levels, cause chronic fatigue, and decrease the body’s immune response, among other things.” Although this occurs, thanks to Himalayan salt lamps, the electromagnetic radiation we are exposed to can be neutralized to reduce the potential danger of these negative ions.

How do they work?

Himalayan salt lamps purify air through hygroscopy, which basically signifies that the crystals in the lamp attract water molecules or any foreign particles carried by it from the surrounding environment then absorb those molecules into the salt crystal. The heat of the lamp when lit allows the water to then evaporate back into the air while the dust, pollen, smoke, etc remain trapped in the salt. Therefore, any sort of allergy symptoms you may have from dust, mold, or pet dander in the air can be significantly reduced to a minimum. 🙂 Many individuals have claimed that, according to Natural Living Ideas, “Even people who suffer from asthma should notice a big difference after a week or two.” This is a great gift, especially for the springtime when the flowers are blooming and half the people I know are sneezing.

Another advantage of Himalayan pink salt lamps are its ability to naturally enhance your mood or to ease any sort of stress you may have that day, due to the fact that the from negative ions on your body, blood and oxygen which are supplied to the brain and other organs in your body are increased. This also significantly increases the individual’s serotonin, “happy“, levels and can allow us to remain more focused.

Finally, Himalayan pink salt lamps are environmentally friendly. Another article states, “While only an estimate, the reserves from which HPS is mined measure somewhere between 80 and 600 million tons and is projected to last for at least another 350 years at the current extraction rate. The base of an HPS lamp is generally carved from a sustainable wood such. Some lamps use a low-wattage bulb which consumes very little energy while others are powered by a lit candle.” This is a great way to preserve energy and even lower your electric bills at home.

When buying a HSL, how do you know if it’s the real deal?

In order to figure out whether or not the one you want to buy is authentic, you need to make sure about the origin of the country it comes from, which should be Pakistan, and the manufacturer’s return policy (usually if a manufacturer is unwilling to refund your purchase, it’s probably not a real lamp because they know you might realize it’s fake and want to return it, sadly.). Also, Himalayan salt lamps are extremely fragile, and they are not necessarily going to light up your entire room. This is because “Due to its high content of numerous minerals, a Himalayan salt lamp gives off light in an irregular and muffled manner.” Therefore, an authentic lamp will not radiate enough light, however, if it does, then its a fake. ALSO: Watch out for the color of the crystal. Usually they have a warm orange tone to it, any other color is probably either extremely rare (super expensive) or a sham.

Overall, Himalayan crystal salt lamps can be a great investment in improving the way you live and view the world around you. From my experience whenever I sleep in a different room or don’t light it up at all, there is a shift in the way I feel immediately. Also, after purchasing this lamp, I feel as though I am able to breathe better (since I always have a stuffy nose) and sleep easier. By the time I wake up, I feel refreshed and ready to start my day with no stress or fatigue. I would definitely recommend this life-changing product to everyone I know.


“Milk is one of the most popular beverages in the United States. We have been told it ‘does a body good,’ but some scientific studies have found that contrary to popular belief, drinking milk may do more harm to our bodies than good.”

-Milk ProCon.org

America has one of the highest consumption of dairy. Many claim that consuming a cow’s milk is an important factor in an individual’s diet from the amount of calcium found in it. The vitamins and minerals found in milk are believed to have physical benefits such as weight loss, bone strengthening, improved cardiovascular, and oral health, etc.

On the other hand, in some cases milk has been proved to be unhealthy and some claim it should not be consumed at all. Many argue that cow’s milk can cause obesity, calcium deficiency (ironic), heart disease, and cancer. Some say milk is all for the money. Campaigns promoting cow’s milk as beneficial and healthy are only advertised in order to promote dairy sales, it’s nothing “for the People”.


Deepa Verma, MD, founder of Synergistiq Integrative Health, published an article for her company Aug. 2016 for her company website titled “The Fallacy of ‘Milk Does the Body Good”, which stated:

“Cow’s milk contains on average about three times the amount of protein than human milk does, which creates metabolic disturbances in humans that have detrimental bone health consequence… A glass of milk also contains acidic animal protein that leeches calcium from the bones, pus cells, feces components, bovine growth hormone, antibiotics, and a whole lot of unnecessary fat, cholesterol and calories — all of which create a terrible imbalance in the body.”
It is clear to see that cow’s milk is not designed for human consumption. The way our body processes foods is completely different compared to that of a cow or other animal.

Another source from Susan Tomassini, nutritionist at the Clever Kitchen, in a Nov 2016 report for the HelloMonaco website titled “Keeping Monaco Healthy with Susan Tomassini: Don’t Drink Your Milk!”, wrote:

“Most dairy cattle are injected with a cocktail of hormones to artificially increase milk production. One of these, IGF 1 (insulin-like growth factor 1), stimulates the rapid growth of calves (and humans) by boosting the division and multiplication of all cells – including abnormal ones. Perhaps not surprising that many studies have found a link between IGF 1 and various cancers… And there’s more…”
Milk and other dairy products can be dangerous to consume due to the fact that they can cause complications to our overall well-being and health. Other evidence suggests that their ingestion leads to an increased risk of cancer and bone deficiency. In addition, a wide range of studies have linked acne in both boys and girls to the consumption of dairy.
Because of the growth in knowledge of the affects cow’s milk can have on a human, many have leaned to organic dairy products. Although it may be claimed or certified as organic by the FDA (Food and Drug Administration) and may not contain the pesticides and antibiotics loaded into non-organic dairy products, organic milk still contains components such as fat and cholesterol which must be taken into consideration when consuming.

Sep. 17, 2007 – Margaret Moss, MA , wrote in her article from the Nutrition and Allergy Clinic that:

“Organic milk may not contain the pesticides and antibiotics that non-organic milk contains, but still can be loaded with fat and cholesterol. Even organic cow’s milk, which does not contain artificial hormones, does contain naturally occurring hormones. The combination of nutrients found in both organic and non-organic cow’s milk increases our own production of some types of hormones. These hormones have been shown to increase the risk of some forms of cancer. Soy milk and other non-dairy beverages, such as rice and nut milks, are healthy alternatives to cow’s milk.”

From this, the most appropriate thing to do would be to cut out dairy as a whole and stick to the alternatives. Luckily, today, there are many products sold in grocery stores that can substitute dairy, such as almond, coconut, soy, rice, or cashew milk. These products are also advantageously more healthier for our bodies to digest, and they usually have about the same taste as regular cow’s milk, which is an added bonus. Overall, we should all consider the benefits of living on a dairy-free diet and take notice of how our health and well-being change in the long run.