How many words do you speak each day? For me, it’s very little, but most speak about 16,000 on average. Yet, most of what’s said is meaningless, or as I use to say at some point in my life, pointless. Mainly when it comes to angry arguements, it’s out of control and out of your hands. It may be just someone’s pride taking hold of thier instincts with out a second thought. There is a simpler and wizer way to use those words.
What I decided to do was have a week of silence, but that was too drast and worried many friends, family, as well as strangers that just so happen to pass by. I was completely fine considering I didn’t get into any conflics, but I soon forgot how to just have a good time. To this day, I find my self unable to laugh as hard as I use to. I can always give a smile at least. Now I know I could’ve taken smaller steps to a better life style.
Now that my backspace(past) is rewriten, here are 10 things we could all live with saying more often:
1. “Hello”: In my opinion, a great time to say this is to not just to a friend, but to someone you see on more than one occasion. It might be on a bus, train, waiting room, or even a long line. Just sitting or standing there isn’t going to brighten the atmosphere.
2. “Thank you”: In my opinion these 2 words can give both the speaker & the listener a better mood. Though I am some what confused when a cashier says it when they give you your meal at a restaurant. It’s because you bought it, right?
3. ”Please”: In my opinion, this word turns a demand into a request and makes people more willing to fulfilling it. Just adding this word can do alot. It’s sure better than being told to do it by a parent or being forced by the person your telling.
4. ”Here, have my seat”: In my opinion, offering a seat to someone less able to stand is reasonable enought to get up and say these exact words. Just like that saying goes, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”. Consider that you have been sitting longer than they have or you were going to get up shortlythat is when it comes to a bus. Your not only getting up for there sake, but for your sake as well. Of course, I’m just stating the obvious
5. ”This ones on me”: Well, this points toward couples or friends that go out. Mainly, to buy lunch or dinner for the other. I can’t say anything about this phrase for I don’t have a job, but I do have money. So, I’ll just say allow family & friends to barrow money when they need if you don’t. Sadly, it’s a problem I haven’t solve myself yet.
6. “Let me help you with that”: In my opinion, you should always help those in need, especially when your not busy. It shows that your not lazy & that your not someone to sit there & watch as well as talking on the phone, listening to music, playing a portable game, etc… Watch your surroundings & make your self useful. Considering I’m a boy scout, I’d know. I also know when everyones doing fine on their one. It can also be put as a question, “Do you need any help with that?” I case they look like they don’t need it, at least you took the time to ask.
7. “I don’t think we’ve met. I’m…”: In my opinion, this is a great way to invite someone into a conversation. I’m sure it would make them more comfortable speaking to you if you started the conversation your name. You may even become friends, but not giving a name indicates your just trying to pass time. I depends on where & when you met, short period or long.
8. “What I’m really passionate about is…”: In my opinion this is when you want to get to know someone better. You could tell them about yourself first or ask them to tell you about themself if you’ve already gained there trust. This is past the point of small talk to trying to find a connection. I guess it’s a way to make a friend you can talk to rather than just play around. In other words, someone who will listen to you. I think I’m going to deep here. I’m thinking about problems when it could be your success. In my opinion, you should be able to talk about both.
9. “Have a great day”: In my opinion, great is more enthusiastic than good or nice. I personally use great when ever I’m asked how I’m doing, so I know first hand. I think this phrase is used often enought to tell you the truth. It just needs the great, because I’m always left saying “you too” in the end. I might as well start adding “thanks” to it now. To think I’ve some how thought of the same idea as the writer of this aticle. It’s true, I didn’t always say “you too”. Anywho, say it before leaving anyone you talk to. Just that phrase might’ve changed there day. I even say good night at times no ones going to sleep yet.
10. “I love you”: In my opinion, these words are the most important when it comes to family. Some thing they not need to say it because they thing they already know, but sometimes they don’t. Whether you show it or not isn’t always enough. Hearing those words confirms it.
Anybody could do it once gotten use to. I believe my mom is a perfect example. I could even bring up a, “just the other day”, if I wasn’t drifting from the topic. At any rate, I could mention that she brought up a topic they had in common and still went their separate ways. No need to make another friend, just a descent conversation. Parents should constantly tell their child to use these phrases, as well as use them themselves just as my mom has. These 10 things, out of all the meaningless chit-chat we use everyday, can make a big difference.
In this article’s comments, it had to other phrases that caught my eye:
1. “I’m Sorry”: An arguement can turn into a fight if a conclusion isn’t met. This mostly starts when a misunderstanding isn’t discused and is instead taken to action. Even if you weren’t the one who started it, saying sorry will set a good example to the one your telling.
2. ”I forgive you”: In my opinion, this should be said after sorry, simlpe because they might not say it again. I’m most defenently not going into sarcasm when it comes to sorrymainly because I don’t use it on as often as most people.
What phrases do you think we should be saying more often? What would you say to bring a smile to someone’s face?
http://www.dumblittleman.com/2008/12/ten-simple-things-we-should-all-say.html
Excellent weekly reader post. Very nice the way you ask your readers what else could be added.